This is something new to me. Generally the media portray women as the ones that turns psychotic / harbour a broken heart for the rest of their life / do some really weird stuff when the "love of their life" leaves.
See gals! It's possible, it's proven! You can CHOOSE to take a hold on yourself & be strong! The memories & hurt linger the longest because one CHOOSES to hold tightly to the past memories and refuses to let go. It's almost as if you want to try your very best to remember & replay all the past happy moments you had together.
The sad news is this. Until you CHOOSE to release those memories you will remain unhappy for just as long as you try to keep the past.
Some practial steps:
1) Throw away every single gifts you've exchange or remind you of the person
2) Stop listening to the weepy love ballads playing on 93._ station. You'll end up feeling sorry for yourself all over again
3) Share with a trusted mentor who can help you along this journey of recovery. One of them is me. Drop me a mail at kermittee@hotmail.com if need be!
I couldn't sleep after I saw the papers. It's about ten plus years since I was still in secondary school. Back then life was so peaceful, innocent. I wonder if one of the reasons was that I couldn't be bothered to read the newspapers then - the busyness of exams and school was my entire world then. (A pretty small world ya. Hahas)
And I couldn't find the answer which I've been asking myself in the recent years (since I've started working) why things have became so warped so ugly in such a short span of time.
Anyway I saw something which helped a little...
Quoted by Mr Huang Sabin:
* People are never our enemy - evil is. We must love people and fight evil
* We must fight evil using God's power, not our own
The Straits Times (Thursday, October 26, 2006 )
'It's a horrible thing that's happened to my daughter':
* Youth gang in Australia films sexual assault on girl, 17
* Outcry after video is put on Net and shown on TV
A wave of disgust has swept Australia following revelations that a gang of youths not only sexually assaulted a teenage girl but also filmed their acts for distribution on DVDs.
In what began as a meeting arranged through an Internet chat room, the teenager agreed to see two boys at a shopping centre in the Melbourne suburb of Werribee. But when she got there, she was surrounded by about a dozen youths and forced to a nearby river bank where the attack took place.
Note: Full article coming soon, stay tuned.
The Straits Times (Thursday, October 26, 2006 )
From star student to fraudster:
Two National University of Singapore undergraduates - both star students and one of them an accomplished young entrepreneur with an IQ of 160 - went astray when one of them chanced upon a website that detailed how credit cards could be cloned using stolen data cheating local banks out of $80,000 in just two months before they were apprehended by the police.
Note: Full article coming soon, stay tuned.
I usually am not so quick in catching up with technology. Wonder if this is a norm among gals out there. Here's something I found in the papers that pretty enlightened me on the changes in technology in this part of the world. Enjoys.
Singapore's infocomm efforts since the 1980s have led the nation to a digital age, in the way people learn, play and work. (Courtesy of Serene Luo; Digital Life)
Create Your Own!
A good fren of mine got married a week back. Really happy for her & her sweetheart. Create Your Own!
(Do bear with my sweeping statement)
20 years ago I think it's most gals dream to get married. 20 years later I believe it's most gals as well as guys dream to get married!!!
Some might disagree & say that cohabitation is more convenient for them & they don't wish to be tied down to someone for life. But how I feel is "If a man can't even be committed to take care of me for the rest of my life" then his empty promises of love everlasting is probably juz some sweet talking. Do I really want to waste my time with such an irresponsible guy... No thank you! I won't even know if twenty years down the road he'll just hunt around for another hot young chick.
From a Christian perspective. This is how a couple takes responsibility & show commitment for each other & not juz treat love as a mad rush of feelings.
Wedding Vows:
(Male)
I _____, take you ______, to be my wedded wife. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.
(Female)
I, _____, take you ______, to be my wedded husband. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, 'till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.
The Straits Times (Tuesday, October 10, 2006 
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Over the weekend I attended my friend's wedding as a Jie Mei (sister) in Malaysia. Big events as such also means putting in extra effort to look good. So instead of wearing spectables I wore disposable contact lens for the occasion.
Feeling an irritation in my left eye I tried removing the lens. After struggling for more than 15mins I was left with a sore & bruised left eye. Unable to take the pain and tearing from my eye I decided to try later.
Cut the long story short ---> After struggling for almost 4 torturous hours back in Singapore I had the sudden realization tat my contact lens might had probably dropped off & I had been plucking and pinching at my raw eyeball for the whole time. Eeeks. Painful okie.... Goodness, how could I be so blur.... No more contact lens for 2 weeks at least!
My injured eye: Create Your Own!
Compared to those who are willing to go under the knife to enhance the way they look mine was just minor pain. I seriously can't imagine the amount of pain they put themselves to. I remember a doctor friend told me that if someone goes for plastic surgery/general surgery she probably can't go out of the house for a few weeks because that part of the body will be in great pain to recover from the extreme tramua of the surgery.
What's the PRICE you're willing to pay to be "beautiful"??? When plastic surgery goes very wrong
Received this email from a concerned lady colleague yesterday. My initial response was like -> Ok... thanks for the information.
Big big boss was the original initiator. He walked out of his cubicle and asked some of the guy colleagues to have a look outside - at least to let the "suspicious man" know that we're aware of his presence. And to my greatest amazement the guys in my department were suddenly very enthusiastic. 5 of them ran out with a minor hoo-ha.
They came back empty handed, however this morning the conversation continued...(to the best of my recollections)
Guy colleague A: You know the ladies who have their meetings in the night, it's very dangerous leh. Someone should educate them. Especially when they go to the toilet at the corner. They should go in a pair.
Guy colleague B: Ya! Maybe we should hang a whistle in the toilet and if the whistle is no longer there then we know what had happened.
Kermit: ._.' !!!!!
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I was pretty amused and had a great laugh over it. But seriously the last thing a girl need when she needs help is to see a lone whistle hanging in the toilet. (Right???!!! Ladies out there). We pretty much appreciate it when you went out of the way to check out the suspicious man. Felt so much safer that way anytime :)
Whether it's doing project or life partner the same rules apply. Irritating people can really mess up some of my days.
Let's start from ourselves - to be a good parnter to someone else today. Rather than waiting to change irritating people, let's check if we have been a nuisance/irritant to others. Haha! Isn't it way easier to change our own bad habits than attempting to change others.