Make a little space (in ur heart), to make it a better place

I'm no Mother Theresa I can't fly to the poorest part of the world just to help the poor. And by the time I get there I'll probably freak out by the devastation. Give up, go home.

Let's be practical. We probably need many baby steps before we get to the final big leap. Start by making a little space, making room in your heart for people. Like that pregnant lady who is going to reject me even if I offer my seat OR the suspicious blind lady that is selling tissue paper.

Each time we shut our eyes to someone in need we're really a step closer to a colder, more harden & less trusting heart.

Somebody gotta take the first step right. Let that be me. Let that be you!

Poor Paul Getty (Happily Married)

Amercian educator William Lyon Phelps once said: "Every man who is happily married is a successful man, even if he has failed in everything else." I certainly agree.

For many years, I lived a short drive from the J Paul Getty Museum in Southern California, which houses some of the most incredible artwork in the world. This priceless collection was just one small hobby for Getty, who was reportedly the richest man alive in his time. He ruled an enormous oil empire. When asked how much he was worth, he answered: "Several billion dollars," and then added,"...but remember a billion dollars isn't worth what it used to be."

Getty was a workaholic. He had six failed marriages and poor relationships with his sons. His wives said that they could never share a life with this man who was possessed by an all-consuming passion for business. What do you suppose J Paul Getty thought about on his death bed, in June of 1976? Here's one quote that opens a window into the soul of a very sad man. He said: "I hate and regret the failures of my marriages. I would gladly give all my millions for just one lasting martial success."

So, J Paul Getty was perhaps the poorest man who ever lived. It's my wish that we become bother richer and wiser today, by learning from his mistakes.

Kermit says:

I don't think it's about rushing into marriage. But

1) Consider marriage if your original thought is to stay single all your life (I don't want to grow old alone)

2) If you're already married. Work on it if it's not perfect. Don't invest all your time into other engergies!

The Power of Music

Check out the original post at http://chinfen.blogspot.com/ "You Alone"

From a fren's blog. I thought it was really lovely. Supposedly a slow & slightly melancholy song. But the way the music was rearranged gave a sense of strength & hope to it. (In my opinion).
Music is really powerful. Being someone who's musically inclined listening to different kinds of music can either perk up my day or successfully get me into some bluey kind of mode.
When I was younger I love drowning my sorrows listening to all the lovely dovey love songs on 93.3FM. Not very healthy for my kind of personality. I could memorize & replay all those songs in my head & imagine myself as those sad characters portrayed in the songs.
So, do be careful to the kind of music that you listen to. It could be subtly brain-washing you. If you need HOPE, do drop me an email. I have better alternatives of music to offer :) kermittee@hotmail.com

(Lyrics)
You are the peace that guards my heart, my help in time of need
You are the hope that leads me on, and brings me to my knees.
For there I found You waiting, And there I found release
So with all of my heart I worship, And unto You I sing
For You alone deserves all glory, for You alone deserves all praise
Father, we worship and adore You, Father, we long to seek Your face.
For You alone deserves all glory, for You alone deserves all praise
Father we love You And we worship You this day.

Let Children Express Anger

Chances are, at least once or twice during your time as a parent, you’re going to do or say something that will make your child angry with you. Should he or she be allowed to express that emotion?
If a child grows up unable to verbally express his negative emotions toward his mother or father, he will often show it in ways that psychologists call “passive aggression” instead. He may pout, wet his bed or get bad grades in school, or perhaps even eat too much.
Usually, children aren’t aware these choices are being fuelled by anger and that they are unconscious ways of expressing accumulated hostility. So, it is important to allow your children to ventilate the irritations they’ve stored inside.
On the other hand, I firmly believe children should be taught to be respectful to their parents. It is not appropriate to permit name-calling, back-talk, sassiness and disrespect. Instead, I think it’s wise to tell children that they can say anything to us, including very negative things, as long as these things are said in a respectful manner – for example:” You’ve embarrassed me in front of my friends.” Or:” Sometimes I think you love Billy more than me.”
By following this general guideline, we’re teaching children how to deal with anger, which might come in handy with their future husbands or wives.